kitchen table date

for couples in year eleven, not date three

We didn't fall out of love.We fell into a routine.

Take the 2-minute quiz, find out which kind of drift you're in, and get a printable date night deck built for the twenty minutes you actually have.

Find our stage — 2 minutesNo email needed to see your result.

Any of these sound familiar?

  • The last five texts between us are all logistics.
  • Same couch, same show, phones out, no talking.
  • "What do you want to do tonight?" "I don't know, what do you want to do?"
  • We're great teammates and mediocre company.
  • Date night gets scheduled, then quietly cancelled.

None of that means anything is wrong. It means the habit went missing.

The Founding Couples' Offer

The Whole Table

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Everything we make, in one download — and everything we make next, free.

Take the whole table — $99

One download. Every deck. Founding price.

  • In the Weeds — complete Second Honeymoon Kit
  • The Long Middle — complete Second Honeymoon Kit
  • In the Weeds: Volume 2 (52 new cards)
  • Deep Cuts + 8 Envelope Kits + 12-Month Calendar + Anniversary Interview
  • All four upcoming editions FREE when they launch
  • Instant download · print-ready + phone Couch Mode
or pick a single path in

Three ways in

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The Deck

$27

The whole system, printed at our kitchen table.

See what's inside
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Most couples pick this

The Date Night System

$47

For the nights we want more than a warm-up round.

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The Second Honeymoon Kit

$87

A year of us, planned in advance so we don't have to.

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How it works

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Take the 2-minute quiz

Eight questions about your actual life — kids, calendars, what faded first. No email required to see where you land.

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02

Get your stage read

A plain, kind description of the exact drift you're in, written for your stage instead of for couples in general.

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03

Print the deck, do the twenty minutes

52 cards across four levels. Phones in the other room, one card, twenty minutes. Repeat weekly.

ten minutes, once a week

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A home printer by candlelight pushing out a sheet of date night cards with coloured level bands, next to a cutting mat and scissors
Hands cutting a printed sheet into individual date night cards with scissors, a finished stack of cards beside a mug of coffee
Two hands lifting mugs of tea over a candlelit table with a stack of date night cards and one card drawn face down
Overhead view of a wooden table by candlelight covered in toddler toys, a baby bottle, four coffee mugs and a marked-up wall calendar around one blank date night card
Hands holding a single blank date night card by candlelight on a kitchen table crowded with laundry, toddler toys, a sippy cup and an open laptop
An older couple seen from behind, leaning together at a candlelit kitchen table with two glasses of red wine and a small deck of date night cards
Hands sliding a cream Deep Cuts card out of a kraft paper envelope next to a lit candle on a dark wooden table
A hand reaching for a single date night card on a candlelit handoff table beside two travel mugs, a set of keys and a work bag
A couple seen from behind, pulled close together at a long quiet candlelit table with a fan of date night cards and two glasses of whiskey
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A younger couple fanning four date night cards over takeout containers, glasses of red wine and stacked phones by candlelight

What's in the deck

52 cards across four levels, plus the system cards that make it survivable: the No-Logistics Rule, the Bail Card, and the 20-Minute Protocol.

Level 1

Warm-Up

Easy, funny, zero risk. Where every night starts.

Level 2

Rediscovery

Who we are now, not who we were at the wedding.

Level 3

Repair

The careful stuff, with an exit built in.

Level 4

Spark

Flirting, plans, and slightly bad ideas.

Go on, draw one

Six real cards from the deck. Tap to flip.

52 of these, four levels deep.

Find our stage — 2 minutes
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Deep Cuts — The Expansion Deck

For the nights the shallow end isn't enough

24 cards, Repair and Spark levels only. Pairs with any edition.

See the expansions

Why we made this

We hit year eleven and realised we'd become excellent co-workers. The house ran beautifully. The calendar was a work of art. And we hadn't had a conversation that wasn't about the calendar in weeks.

Every "date night idea" list we found was written for people who were still dating. Nothing was written for a Tuesday, after bedtime, with twenty minutes and no babysitter.

So we made the thing we wanted: a deck of cards, a couple of rules, and a reason to sit at the kitchen table with our phones in the other room.

Questions people actually ask

Is this therapy?
No. It's a deck of cards and a habit. If something bigger is going on, a good therapist beats a card game every time — this is for couples who are fine and flat.
Is it cheesy?
It is not. There are no trust falls, no gazing exercises, and nothing you'd be embarrassed to read out loud. If a card makes you cringe, the Bail Card exists for exactly that.
What actually arrives?
A print-ready PDF, immediately. Print it at home on cardstock, or use Couch Mode on your phone if the printer is out of ink like everyone else's.
What if my partner is not into this?
Most partners aren't, at first. The Warm-Up level is designed to be done without announcing that you're Doing An Exercise. Twenty minutes, one question, no framework talk.
Do we have to do it every week?
No. Couples who do it weekly notice the most, but the 12-week tracker exists so you can miss a week without the whole thing dying.
Refunds?
Because the deck is a digital file you download instantly and keep forever, all sales are final. We've made it easy to try before you buy — the quiz is free, there are real cards to flip through right on this page, and the free five-card Sampler lets you play an actual night first. And if anything goes wrong on our end (missing download, broken file, double charge), email us and we'll always make it right.
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Start with the quiz.

Two minutes. Eight questions. One honest read on where you two are.

Find our stage

Get five free cards to try tonight.

The Kitchen Table Sampler — five printable cards, straight to your screen.

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